What I Want In 2019: Compassion, Communication, Courage

New York, N.Y. Now that we have a new year, I would like to talk about one of my two “dream” and “goal”, goals that I have long wanted to do. That is, I would like to create as many as three new orphanages this year based on the “Three C’s” beliefs. The three C’s are “Compassion, Communication, Courage.”  “Compassion” is often translated as Jihi into Japanese. It is almost “pity” in English and I am very unhappy about this.

The word “Compassion” is not just to think about the other person and feel “Pity,” but rather to feel close to the other person’s feelings and oneself feels it. It means just that. The feeling of “Pity” is negative because you are putting yourself above the person; looking down on him. Not Pity as much a Solidarity.

The second C, “Communication,” refers especially to English language instruction. No matter where you are born and raised, English is the most used language in the international community and critical to be able to work beyond the boundaries of your own country.

The third C, “Courage,” means having the courage to talk about yourself or your culture — or whatever you wish or feel — to others.

I would like to create orphanages that will properly implement these three C’s from a very young age. What I want most to do is support children without parents. In Japan, for example, a mother bears a child but leaves the newborn in front of a hospital or church. What a pity! A child is a treasure of the universe. Children are born with miracles, evolving at a great pace from the ancient times of our long-lost ancestors.

I think, ordinarily a mother would think that the child is her own child, but not necessarily so. Think Compassion, which I mentioned before. When I first met H.H. the Dalai Lama in 1972, what he said to me deeply moved and stayed with me forever:

I was wrong.  Tibet has always been a country of peace and it seems no one thought other countries would attack or invade. In 1959, all we could do was to pray. Both Tibet and I had a passion — compassion as you know — but we couldn’t speak other languages.

It was not possible to communicate with other countries or people, when other countries attacked. It is important that you have compassion, but if you only have a passion and are not able to communicate, it doesn’t work…

So the Dalai Lama said, We will give proper education to the Tibetan people from now on, and from now on the Tibetan people will be able to speak Tibet, Hindu, and English. And they will be able to speak about themselves.

Having heard his words, I was keenly aware that it was not only passion but also communication skills, language, and being able to talk about oneself with “Courage.” These three things must be emphasized.

In order to create a good facility, we need to find a good, ambitious leader. If a school has received a huge sum of money, it may all be taken by its leaders through corruption.

If there is an orphanage, perhaps the children go to bed given only a minimal diet, just so they will not die. There are schools in Africa and India that have no idea of education…

There are three orphanages that are my ideals:

  • One is India’s Manjushri. I wrote the episodes here for the 6th, 24th and 25th. As India’s Manjushri is the children of the Dalai Lama, I think that “Compassion” is a very strong and model school. Last year, 17 children all received scholarships and went out to college. I think these children are the ones who can be world leaders, so I sincerely hope that they can all be children who can take courage and talk about themselves.
  • Indonesia also has good orphanages in two places: Manado and Bali.

It seems that many children are now abandoned in front of hospitals and churches in Japan. I am also very concerned about what the children are doing. I think it would be good if the Japanese way of education and education about three C’s were really practiced from a small age. I do not think there are many countries of great character as strong as Japanese. It is a pity that Japanese people do not have more “Courage.”

Often, people say, “I can’t speak English” – and are satisfied with that! Most of them can speak!! Are they simply embarrassed? Do they think someone will translate their mind, expressing what they really want to say?? I am often embarrassed about this kind of Japanese.

The character of the Japanese people is good: kind, compassionate, and caring for others – such rare traits in this world. I have great hope that “Three C’s” can be accomplished in Japan.

Originally published as Vol. 55 in Weekly Biz, January 12, 2019; translated by Jim Luce.

See: Dr. Kazuko Hillyer Tatsumura Column in Japan’s Weekly Biz



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Dr. Kazuko Hillyer Tatsumura
Dr. Kazuko was born into a distinguished old family in Kyoto, Japan, and graduated from Toho conservatory of Music in Tokyo. In 1961 she came to U.S. as a pianist sponsored by the Boston Symphony. She studied at Boston University, New York University, and received her Ph.D. in Oriental Medicine from New York State University and the International Academy of Education in Tokyo. From 1968 to 1992, she promoted cultural exchanges from East to West and vice versa, and became a world famous impresario, producing 2,000 events each year all over the world encompassing over 140 countries. In this connection, in 1972, she went to Dharamsala to find the lost Tibetan Folk Opera, and met His Holiness the Dalai Lama, with whom she remains a lifelong friend. In 1973 and 1991 she arranged and funded personally the tours of the Folk Opera of Tibet to the West. She has received many medals and honors from different countries. Her tireless life long work in Philanthropic field is vast and well known ranging from Save the Beacon Theater, Save the Boat People, Help the Homeless, natural disasters of earthquakes and tsunamis, as well as relief to AIDS and HIV positive children in Africa. She has been a dedicated Board Member to both the J. Luce Foundation and Orphans International for years. Her work focuses on the Tibetan people; Tibetan children remain especially strong in her heart. She raised fund for the new academic building for Manjushree Orphanage in Tawang, India and supported many aspects of the school. See HuffPo pieces entitled Japanese Holistic Healer in NYC to Build School for Tibetan Orphans in India, A Japanese Dinner with Raul Castro’s Daughter, and NYC Gala in Support of Tibetan Orphans Set for January.

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